Books by Debra Jay

No More Letting Go

No More Letting Go asks new questions that transform how families approach a loved one’s addiction: Do they have to want help? Do you have to let them hit bottom? Do you have to let go? By explaining new insights into the brains of alcoholics and addicts, it becomes clear why they have difficulty helping themselves. This book explains what’s going on in the mind of the addicted person and how it changes the lives of the people closest to them. The book presents several different ways families and friends can interrupt the cycle of addiction. No More Letting Go is not only about saving the lives of alcoholics and addicts, but about reclaiming the well-being of the entire family. Published by Bantam.

 "A powerful call to tolerance for untreated addiction. Debra Jay provides a clear, gentle and compassionate path based on love and respect." –Jerry Moe, National Director of Children's Programs, Betty Ford Center.

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Love First

Love First provides a complete road map to structured family intervention. By expanding the role of love in intervention, the book promotes love not toughness as a way to break through denial. This book is the natural sequel to No More Letting Go. Love First's companion website helps families begin to plan an intervention, including an intervention checklist, in-depth articles, a contact page for emailing questions, and a list of professional interventionists. Published by Hazelden.

“Building a team, choosing a chairperson, anticipating objections, using checklists and rehearsing for the intervention itself–the reader will find it all here!” –Robert M. Morse, M.D., Professor emeritus, psychiatry, Mayo Medical School.

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Aging and Addiction is a guide for families concerned about an older parent orrelative addicted to alcohol or mood-altering prescription drugs. Addiction among older adults is often ignored or denied. The health care industry often doesn’t recognize the problem; therefore older adults are medicated for symptoms of addiction, but the addiction itself goes undiagnosed and untreated. Hitting bottom for an older person is often death. This book gives families the tools they need to help someone they love over the age of fifty-five. It includes a resource section geared toward the needs of older persons and their families. Aging and Addiction's companion website includes a quiz for family members to help determine if an older adult has a problem. Published by Hazelden.

“Finally a book that supports families helping older adults maintain independence, sobriety, and joy of living.” –Max Schneider, M.D., Clinical professor of psychiatry (addiction medicine), University of California, Irvine.

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